One way to heal it is to acknowledge it and grant yourself permission to live your new life.If you’ve taken on the role of victim, Carlson suggests leaving the “perpetual pity party” so you can transition into your new life as a single woman.In 2006, after the death of her husband, Richard Carlson, Ph.D., author of the best-selling "Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff" books, Kristine Carlson felt a loss that sent her on a healing journey through grief.From that experience, she created a grief support group and wrote a book about the grieving process called "Heart-Broken Open."Although dating is not the reason her readers visit the site or buy her book, it is a topic of discussion that comes up and is addressed, and Carlson, who is grandmother to two young boys, does have a lot to say about it.As a widow myself, I know it’s not an easy transition to make.
She says if you’re still experiencing any fear or neediness, that’s imbalance speaking to you. Plus, a vibrator will keep you from having random sexual encounters that might put your health in jeopardy.She found a companion, he was long-distance, and there was sex involved.She didn’t take it beyond that, but it was something she craved at the time.So when I learned about Carlson’s success with her support network, I decided to ask her to share some tips about how you can make dating your next healthy choice:“It’s easy to jump right into a new relationship,” she says, “but if you want to attract a healthy relationship, it starts with being healthy yourself.” You deserve the time to heal, no matter how long it takes.Six years after the death of her beloved husband, Carlson, has yet to remarry and says she’s just now “starting to warm up to the idea.”“My first encounter [after Richard] was a healing relationship,” she says.
She felt lonely and wanted the companionship, so she let it be that.