Furthermore, they do so in a situation where women's own social instruction may reduce the very characteristics that many of these men desire.
Given that, many men sit on the couch, plug in a video game, and opt out—just as Behaviorism and Skinner might predict.
Men often define these women along evolutionary psychology lines—women who are sexually-selective, faithful, physically attractive, and have a pleasant, respectful disposition (for more on these qualities, see Buss, 2003 and my own articles here and here).
Unfortunately, these qualities are again part of women's double bind, with social norms sometimes guiding them away from these biologically feminine characteristics.
This week, I will discuss how that double-bind for women may have resulted in a double-bind for men as well.
Today, men are given confusing and contradictory advice.
The men that I speak with (and who commented on my last post) lament about being in a "no win situation" in modern dating.However, these men are often punished by being socially labeled as "jerks", "players", or even "creeps", unfit for socially-defined relationships.Furthermore, their tactics are often designated as "sexist" (Hall & Canterberry, 2011).If men choose to follow social norms and become compliant as "good guys", they may get a "relationship partner". biological double-bind, these compliant men may also not be "attractive" to those same relationship partners (Buss & Shackelford, 2008).As a result, they may be punished by their girlfriend's/wife's lack of sexual interest, being cheated on, or disrespected as a "push over".
Welcome back to The Attraction Doctor Last week, I discussed why women can't find a "good" man (here).