A common thread that runs through the issues that arise from being involved in poor relationships with men is the lack of boundaries and then enforcing them. I need you more than I need my sanity or self-esteem!
You don’t make this up as you go along – this is about knowing your value and knowing your It’s about knowing what you are and aren’t prepared to accept and sticking to it.
But…a man can only step outside boundaries that he’s allowed to step outside of.
So for instance, if one of your boundaries is that you don’t share men but when you find out he’s screwing someone else, you accept it and try to get him to be with you too, or replace her, you send a signal to him that irrespective of what is coming out of your mouth, you don’t respect yourself or your boundaries, and he can do what he likes.
Need a place to start – look at all your past relationships and what didn’t work (trust me – they didn’t work) and start what you are not prepared to put up with.
Write it down and pin it up and acclimatise yourself to a new outlook of self respectability and higher self-esteem.